Very shortly after we met he gave me a phrase that has helped me over and over again. It is a phrase that I have shared with many others also.
You see I have for so many years struggled with not feeling good enough. It could be the simplest of mishaps and my reaction would be one of extreme failure. My world would threaten to tumble down on me over something as simple as having forgotten to buy milk. Ok so I may be dramatizing a little bit, but not by much. The point is though that I often went to him feeling as if I had failed in some monumental way, when to him it was nothing more than a tiny bump in the road.
He sat me down and talked at length with me about this and then gave me this wonderful phrase.
"Perfection is the enemy of the good."
What this means is simple, if we are striving for perfection constantly, we tend to get so wrapped up in being perfect that we miss the thousands of things we did good. So by pushing for perfection, and then beating ourselves up when we cannot obtain it, we have missed out on seeing and embracing all the other things we did well. We become imbalanced in our perceptions as well as making ourselves feel like failures when in fact we are really good at so many things
I find this to be true in my art as well. When he and I first met I had just begun my journey back into the art world. Yet I was scared to try a lot of various techniques because I felt that the art I was already doing wasn't perfect. I became a dabbler at my art and yes I enjoyed a lot of it but I was always just shy of actually embracing it, and I very rarely could say I liked a finished piece. There was always something I did wrong, or I was good enough at, or everyone else did so much better than I did.
I had even found myself doing very little of my own artwork and instead was doing mostly coloring work for other people. I loved doing it, since I am a huge lover of color and blending, but it never truly felt like mine because the original image wasn't my own work.
So as I tell you how much my boyfriend’s continual support, encouragement and belief in me has impacted me as an artist let me show you some of my art from when I met him vs. my artwork now...
Here are a couple done shortly before we met...
I am not saying they are horrible, but I was too scared to try my hand at anything more detailed than those type of projects.
Here are a couple of works I just recently finished...
I am so much happier in myself and in my art since I am "finally" understanding the most beautiful gift I have ever received. The gift of his phrase, "Perfection is the enemy of the good." A gift that continues to give to me over and over again in my life. I still struggle to remember this at times, but when I do remember it always gives me the boost I need to smile and remember all those many good things I do so well.
I hope my readers will embrace the phrase and take it to heart so that they may grow and start their well deserved journeys into the world of accepting all the "Good"!
Hugs & Love - Ranae'