The critic....You’re not good enough. You can’t do that painting. You’re just wasting your time. You will never be as good as them. What you’re doing is horrible. You should just give up. You will never accomplish that.
We all struggle with this Inner Critic and maybe even more so when we are creatives. From early on in our lives we are taught to think logically, weigh the odds, be realistic. Blah dee blah, blah… Now I am not at all saying these things are not useful and needed, I am saying they are not enough! These concepts need a balance and too often we are not taught this balance.
Think logically but allow creativity to open new doors and logic to simply guide you through those doors. I can’t begin to count how many times I had started an art project and felt I messed it up so badly that I wanted to give up and listen to those critical voices. What I can tell you though is when I decided to push through and tried to find a new creative way to change what I thought was horrible mistake, over 90% of the time I fell in love with finished project.
Weigh the odds but use that knowledge to help you prepare for the times those odds are against you, instead of avoiding them. Figure out new ways to beat those odds, practicing is a great way to change the odds into your favor.
Be realistic, I don’t even want to go there… What is realistic anyway? Being realistic implies that there is some type of universal rule that all must adhere to. I would rather you create the reality you are the most passionate about, and that reality will change many times in your life.
Ok, so what do we do with this know it all inner critic?
I believe the first thing we must realize is that little miss know it all is actually here to protect us. Unfortunately, she is overly sensitive and tends to speak from false fears a lot. Her voice is often born from the ideas others in our lives have verbalized to us or about us. Whose voice is she emulating? When her voice comes forth we need to recognize that she believes her words are helpful and protection. Acknowledge her words and her fear with love then move forward despite them.
“I realize you say I am not good enough and I also understand this concern is born from the voice of “insert someone in your past who may of said such to you” However, I release that fear and chose to know and accept that I am more than good enough.” And YOU ARE !
Hugs & Love from Ranae’